I heard them arguing, the couple sitting next to us in the restaurant last night. It pertained to finances and I watched her grow more and more agitated, her tone becoming harsher, her words more unkind as the conversation progressed.
I saw his countenance fall, his face twist downward in anger as he closed his eyes and through clenched teeth asked, “What do you want me to do about it?”
My heart broke for them and I longed to take this woman aside, put my arm around her and share with her a quote that I had read the night before.
“When we’re scared, we’re scary. So at your most fearful, you frighten the people around you. They, in turn, react aggressively from their own fear.”
I too have felt scared lately, tied up in knots, unhappy, unsure.
“When we’re scared, we’re scary.”
I have seen this, I have felt it, and I don’t want it. I don’t want to be scary. I don’t want to bring out aggression and fear in others. I want to speak peace. I want to be the calm in the storm, the soft place to fall. I want to be more like Him, my Savior.
I want to take the woman from the restaurant aside, put my arm around her and tell her that there’s a way to not be scared, there’s a way to not be scary—He is the way.
He is our peace, our calm in the storm, our soft place to fall. He provides the courage when we want to be scared. He provides the soft heart and the kind words when we want to be scary.
He can and He will rescue us. He will help us rise up to be warrior women—women who provide strength to our homes, our children and our relationships—instead of tied up in knots, unhappy, unsure puddles of fear.
He can do it.
But we have to ask. We have to act. And we have to believe.